Counselling

I am a registered, fully accredited member of the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy and I offer counselling to individuals and couples. I have been in private practice for ten years, working with men and women of all ages, from many diverse backgrounds. My experience also includes several years working with students and staff at the University of Cambridge counselling service, working for the NHS in secondary care and as a school counsellor working with young people aged 11-18.

Clients come to counselling for many different reasons. Sometimes, they are struggling with a major life crisis, sometimes, they would just like their life to be more fulfilling or to discover more about themselves – there are no rules and it’s your agenda. My work with clients has focused on many varied issues including:

  • low self esteem
  • relationship difficulties155
  • divorce and separation
  • eating disorders
  • depression and anxiety
  • workplace problems
  • career change and other transitions
  • communication difficulties
  • procrastination
  • family concerns
  • bereavement

What to expect

My approach to counselling is very simple – I believe wholeheartedly in the relationship between client and therapist – that a relationship based on trust and non-judgement provides the right condition for change. I see my role as facilitative, walking along side you as you find your own answers in a warm, supportive but sometimes challenging environment. I provide a safe, confidential space in which you can explore present or past difficulties, express your thoughts and feelings and think about the way forward.

My theoretical approach is psychodynamic, based on the belief that current distress often has its origins in early relationships and experiences. The exploration of the dynamics in the relationship between us helps me understand more about your previous and current relationships, how you react and how you might be experienced in the outside world. Once self-awareness develops and deepens, we can begin to think about how you can make changes in your life or relationships. When appropriate, I also draw on some coaching, solution focus and cognitive models using techniques that can be very helpful with some clients, particularly when the work is short-term.

Each individual has his or her own unique needs and issues. This might mean working together for a few weeks or a few years or more usually, something in between. My aim is to help identify how counselling might help you, which we explore in the initial session. This is also an opportunity for me to find out about you and to see how it feels to work together before taking the decision to continue with counselling. When working with couples, I generally hold the initial session with both partners present but I like to meet with each of you individually early on in the work. I might also suggest that it would be helpful for me to work with a colleague – this way of working can be particularly helpful in complex cases.

If we decide to start regular sessions, I will explain my terms of engagement and ask you to complete a Client Information Form. Counselling is generally most effective if sessions take place at a fixed time on a weekly basis; however, I always do my best to accommodate clients when life takes over. Counselling sessions can take place either in the centre of Cambridge or in Histon.

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